STRAP-ON GUIDE 101

Illustration by Sofie Birkin (@sofiebirkinillustration)

Ah, the strap-on. A sex toy that carries some mystery. We understand, the idea of using a strap-on for the first time may seem a bit...tricky. BUT, once you look at it from a different perspective, this excitingly erotic toy can is quite simple and can spice up how you play with your partner(s).  

What IS a strap-on and how do you use it?

Strap-ons are a sex toy ensemble that typically includes two parts; the harness which is comfortably secured around the waist or hips of one partner, plus a compatible dildo. They can be used to provide fun and hands-free penetrative pleasure for all couples, allowing you to try out a variety of positions and use those hands for heightened intimacy. Other perks include shifting sexual roles, playing out your pegging fantasies, or enjoying a new sensual experience. 


When we say ALL partners can try out strap-ons, we mean it! As the giver, they can be used as an extension or substitute for whatever is compatible with your parts. For the receiver, anal or vaginal stimulation can be achieved. The prostate, stimulated through back-door play, is a major erogenous point that many are unaware of! Read more on that HERE. Stimulating the prostate has been compared to stimulating a g-spot. Fun fact: it’s even been given its own name - the p-spot! 

 

Some tips to getting started:

1) Communicate what you want. If you are unsure of exactly what you want, talk about what you want to feel and experience. 
 
2) Take it SLOW. With new experiences, it’s important to not rush into anything. (This will also prevent injuries.)
 
3) It might be awkward...and that's ok! Whether you’re trying something new, or doing it for the hundredth time, there can be small mishaps that might ruin the mood for a second. Roll with the punches. If you are discouraged during a session, don't worry. Try it again later when you and your partner are ready!
Now remember, finding the right fit is important! When choosing a strap-on and dildo to use, consider the size, shape, materials, and other features that can help you feel best in your own body. 

Here are some of our favorite strap-on toys to get you started:


The Harness and Dildo Set: New Comers Strap On

New Comers Strap On

Perfect for easing into strap-on play with simplicity, this set comes with size-inclusive, adjustable straps and a petite dildo, comfortable and compatible no matter what roles you and your partner(s) prefer. 


If you’re more comfortable starting out with a traditional dildo, the Please Silicone Dildo is a great choice. Its slender and petite shape (five inches of pleasure-giving power!) is flexible for vaginal and anal play. Only pair it with water-based lube and enjoy a romp around your bedroom, shower, or wherever you like to get down.

 

Silicone Please Dildo

Silicone Please Dildo 

For a deeper erotic experience, the Lovers Deep Ecstasy Rotator Vibrator (yes! it rotates) has three speeds at the top of the shaft, helping you achieve orgasmic satisfaction. It’ll stimulate your g-spot or p-spot, with intense rotations and concentrated strength. Whether you prefer to use it with a strap-on or simply suction it to a surface, it can help elevate your erotic experience and fantasies. 

 

Lovers Rotator Vibrator

Lovers Deep Ecstasy Rotator Vibrator

See? Strap-ons are not as tricky as they sound! Check out our whole Strap On & Harness Assortment. Paired with effective and engaging communication, get ready to ease into a different kind of play for elevated pleasure. Enjoy having your erotic sensations hands-free, allowing you and your partner(s) to use them for other things, and maximize your connection and stimulation. 


Further Reading:

9 Things To Know Before You Try: Self

Why (Some) Women Love Using a Strap-On: Vogue

 

With Pleasure,

LOVERS