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You’re here because you’re curious about the prostate. We don’t blame you! This often-forgotten pleasure zone can produce mind-blowing, body shuddering orgasms. Although only experienced by people assigned male at birth, that doesn’t mean that others can’t get involved in the action!
- What is the Prostate?
- Where is the Prostate?
- How Do You Find the Prostate Muscle?
- What Does a Prostate Orgasm Feel Like?
- How to Stimulate the Prostate
- The Best Beginner Prostate Toys
We know that anything around butt play comes with its fair share of stigma and fear, but we are here to say that prostate (P-spot) orgasms are pretty life-changing. A note before beginning: make sure to use some lube, communicate, and go slow.
The prostate is a gland (roughly the size of a walnut) responsible for secreting a fluid that helps nourish and protect sperm. The urethra (which carries both semen and urine) runs through the prostate, so when one ejaculates, the prostate helps to expel semen.
The most direct way to locate the prostate is through the anus. Alternatively, you can stimulate it directly through the perineum- or taint, the skin that runs underneath the scrotum to the anus. When you’re aroused, the gland will swell and is easier to find - it almost feels like a large marble.
Prostate orgasms are said to feel similar to penile orgasm but are described as more intense and full-bodied. Something to note: not everyone ejaculates from a p-spot orgasm, but some may secrete a milky fluid from the urethra. This act of “milking” creates prostatic fluid, or ejaculate without sperm.
The “Come Here”
Slowly insert your lubed and gloved index finger into the anus and curl your finger upward in a “come here” motion toward the belly button. Repeat the motion as you gradually increase your speed.
Use the pad of your finger and place it all around the prostate, circling your way around the entirety of it. Mix it up by changing the speed and pressure with the combination that feels best.
Place the pad of your finger against the outside of the prostate and gently press as if you were ringing a doorbell. We encourage using different pressures and intervals to mix it up and find the sweet spot.
Sex toys are extremely helpful with accessing your p-spot, especially since you can utilize various vibration settings, pressure, and depth.
Smooth Slimline Glass Dildo ($34.00)
The Le Wand Stainless Steel Hoop Massager is loved by beginners and connoisseurs alike, due to it's bulky, 1.39 pound weight. The Le Wand Hoop is designed to add the perfect amount of pressure to the prostate, with two delicious, textured ends to choose from. Made from body safe stainless steel, the Hoop Wand can be paired with your favorite lubes and stimulants.
Le Wand Hoop ($145.00)