Strap Ons and Harnesses

Lovers Stores presents a diverse and inclusive collection of strap on and harness products that cater to all levels of experience and every type of pleasure seeker. Whether you’re new to exploring strap on play or looking to upgrade your current setup, we have made it easier than ever to find the right fit. Our strap on and harness selection is thoughtfully curated to offer variety, comfort, and style. From simple, beginner-friendly designs to advanced harness gear for seasoned users, there’s something for everyone. 

We understand that no two people are the same when it comes to intimacy, which is why our range includes different sizes, styles, and materials so you can confidently explore your desires in a way that feels right for you. All of our strap-on products are made from body-safe materials and designed for secure, pleasurable use.

What Is a Strap On?

If you’re wondering “what is a strap on?”, it’s a wearable device designed to hold a dildo in place, usually secured around the waist and hips with a harness. The primary purpose of a strap on is to provide penetration from the wearer by the receiving partner, although strap ons can be used solo with the help of compatible accessories.

Strap ons are used by individuals and couples across all sexual orientations and gender identities, offering a way to enjoy a different dynamic or experience sensations that aren't achievable through traditional means. People assigned female at birth who want to penetrate a partner can explore this experience with strap ons. People assigned male at birth who have difficulty getting or maintaining an erection may find strap ons to be a helpful tool in discovering new pathways to intimacy. The person wearing the strap on harness has control over the movements and depth of penetration, allowing for tailored pleasure that both partners can enjoy. Strap ons can be used for vaginal, anal, or oral play, depending on personal preferences and comfort levels. They’re also popular in role-reversal scenarios and pegging, where one partner takes on a penetrating role regardless of gender. The beauty of a strap on lies in its versatility, empowering users to take control, explore new sensations, and deepen their connection. Find out more with our Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex.

Types of Strap Ons and Harnesses

There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to strap on and harness options, and at Lovers Stores we embrace this by offering a wide range of styles to choose from. At the core of our collection are classic harnesses, which are often made with adjustable straps and O-rings that allow you to swap in different dildos. These are ideal for users who want variety and flexibility in their experience. For those seeking added realism, we stock strap on dildos in lifelike materials and anatomically correct designs. There are also dual-penetration strap ons, which offer both vaginal and anal stimulation simultaneously, providing a more intense experience for the receiving partner. Some of our harnesses are specifically designed for comfort and discretion, such as low-rise or thong-style harnesses that can be worn under clothing. These are great for those who want to keep things sleek and snug during play.  

Not only that, but at Lovers we offer beginner strap on sets that include everything you need to get started including harness, strap on dildo, and instructions, thus making it easy to explore at your own pace. For more advanced users, you’ll find harnesses that support vibrating dildos, fantasy dildos, suction-based attachments, or even hollow strap ons, which allow people of all anatomies to participate in penetrative play. No matter your preference, we’re sure you’ll find the best strap on that supports your needs and enhances your intimacy.

What Type of Lube Should Be Used with a Strap On?

Choosing the right lubricant for your strap on dildo is essential for both pleasure and toy safety. We recommend using water-based lubricants for most strap on play, especially when using silicone dildos. Silicone-based lubes, while long-lasting, are not compatible with silicone toys and can cause degradation or damage to the material over time. Water-based lubes, on the other hand, are safe, effective, and easy to clean off both the toy and your skin. They’re also generally compatible with condoms, which adds an extra layer of hygiene, particularly if you plan on sharing your strap on dildo between partners or switching from one type of play to another. 

For those using glass or metal dildos, silicone or hybrid lubricants may be an option, but it’s still best to follow the product guidance to ensure you’re maintaining your adult toys in the best condition. Lubrication not only helps reduce friction and prevent irritation but also makes insertion smoother and more comfortable. A good quality lube enhances the experience and allows you to enjoy your strap on and harness setup to its full potential.

How to Clean Your Strap On and Harness 

Keeping your strap on and harness clean is vital for maintaining hygiene and extending the lifespan of your pleasure products. At Lovers we recommend that all strap on dildos be cleaned thoroughly after each use. Most silicone dildos can be washed with warm water and a gentle, unscented, mild soap or dedicated toy cleaner. Avoid harsh chemicals, as these can damage the surface of the toy or irritate sensitive skin. Make sure the dildo is completely dry before storing it, ideally in a soft, breathable pouch or storage case to keep it dust-free. 

Harnesses should be cleaned based on their material. Fabric or nylon harnesses are often machine washable or can be hand washed in mild detergent and air-dried. Leather or faux leather harnesses should be wiped down with a damp cloth and a leather-safe cleaner, then stored in a cool, dry place to prevent cracking or fading. Never store your strap on and harness while they’re still damp, as this can cause bacteria or mildew to form. With proper cleaning and storage, your strap on setup can remain a trusted and pleasurable part of your sex toy and BDSM collection for years to come.