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It sounds intense, right? DOUBLE PENETRATION. Whatever is happening, it’s happening twice. Is this a ritual to prepare for? An act only porn stars are flexible enough to survive? Or have I already blown this idea way out of proportion?
The truth is, double penetration (“DP” for short) is more common than you might realize. It’s not like asking for a double shot of espresso, so please don’t use this term with your barista, but plenty of folks take part in DP, even without recognizing that’s what they’re doing.
QUICK LINKS:
- What is Double Penetration (DP)?
- What Does Double Penetration Feel Like?
- The Benefits of DP
- How to Do Double Penetration
- The Best Sex Toys for Double Penetration
What is Double Penetration?
Part of the reason DP is a relatively common sexual occurrence is because there are lots of ways to play that qualify as double penetration. While the act is often skewed as only referencing a vagina and anus being penetrated simultaneously, any act where one or more orifices (anus, vagina, mouth) are being filled with any combination of fingers, fists, penises, tongues, or sex toys including dildos, butt plugs, and ball gags counts!
It counts as DP if more than one hole is being filled and it counts if one hole is being filled with two or more things.
See what we mean by it being a broad term? It’s not exclusively a team sport either. Double penetration can be achieved all on your own with the help of those above mentioned sex toys and your own digits.
What Does Double Penetration Feel Like?
Everyone’s experience is different, especially considering the many ways there are to explore DP. Common sensations include excitement, stretching, and the feeling of fullness. Double Penetration should never cause pain or discomfort and if at any time you experience this, stop immediately.
Why Would Someone Want to Experience Double Penetration?
It’s not just the feeling of fullness that might draw someone to the idea of DP. The famous DoubleMint Gum commercial sang, “Double your pleasure, double your fun,” and that’s at work here! If you’re stimulating more than one hole or erogenous zone, then of course you’re doubling your chances for pleasure. The experience of being filled in more than one way can create intense overall sensations. Talk about double your climax power!
When exploring the possibilities of DP, power dynamics and power play can also be a way to create excitement and enjoyment. The feeling of being penetrated is fantastic, but the giving partner can experience a lot of pleasure from being in control of the act as well. Just be sure to be in continuous communication with your partner so everyone enjoys themselves.
Like I mentioned in the beginning of this article, DP has a host of connotations that show up when it’s referenced. Not only does it have an air of intensity, but it’s also often seen as “naughty,” “dirty,” or only for folks who are into outrageous sex acts. Based on its true definition, we know that’s not true and plenty of folks enjoy DP, but the idea of doing something that isn’t seen as conventional or “appropriate” can create arousal. This can be an added benefit to DP.
How to Enjoy Double Penetration (Safely & Consensually)
Communicate and clarify - Lots of ways to play means its extra important that everyone is on the same page. Questions to ask before anything happens include:
- Who will be receiving? Who is being doubly penetrated?
- In what hole(s)? With what? In what order?
- What positions do you want to explore?
- What pregnancy prevention and STI protection methods are going to be used (if any)?
- Is anything off limits? What are you not comfortable with?
- What will our safe word be?
Shop for the Occasion
Even if it’s just gathering what you need from your night stand and bathroom- pick up sex toys, lube, condoms, etc. You’ll find suggestions for sex toys and DP essentials at the end of this article!
Go Slow
We recommend starting with one hole or one penetrative object (penis, plug, dildo) at a time. Remember to keep communicating!
Explore Positions
Just like there are lots of ways to explore double penetration, there are plenty of positions that are great for it as well! Various 69 styles and doggy styles are great to start from.
Don’t Skip or Skimp on Aftercare
DP can be very intense for the receiver... take extra care after! Be sure to address both physical and emotional needs post-event. Hydration, light massage, cuddling, and clean up are great physical aftercare options. Always ask what your partner needs/prefers. To stay emotionally connected, consider chatting about what each of you enjoyed and what you might change next time.
Don’t Skimp on the Lube
To find the perfect lube for your DP play, check out our Lube Guide.
*A Note on Anal Play: ALWAYS use lube when incorporating anal play in your DP experience and always use toys with a flared base for safety. For more tips on anal play, check out our Anal 101 blog.
The Best Sex Toys for DP
C-Ringz Double Penetrator, $42.00
Double the pleasure, double the fun! You can enjoy the C-Ringz Partner Double Penetrator with the thrill of dual penetration without having to bringing in a third partner. The penetrating shaft is made of a super soft silicone and the stretchy cock ring will stay in place, no matter how vigorous your activities get. The vibrating cock ring is designed to squeeze for longer lasting playtime, ideal for those suffering from erectile dysfunction or who have problems keeping an erection. Bring this along in the shower or hot tub for a steamy session.
Double Sided Suction Cup, $14.00
More versatility for your favorite dildo! New York Toy Collective's Double Sided Dildo Suction Cup adds all kinds of possibilities to what you can do with your toys. Whether you're in need of a base to affix your dildo to, or you want to bind two toys together, this sturdy and helpful creation comes in clutch. Use the two strong suction cup ends to make a double-ended dildo. Both sides can hold up to 3 pounds.
Ruse 18 Inch Double Dildo, $69.00
Dare to explore! This 18 Inch Double Dildo is ideal for those who need extra length for better g-spot stimulation, explore double penetration, or have erotic partner play. The curve to this long dong ideal for intense g-spot massage. The realistic details in the shaft are both eye-catching and incredibly stimulating.
Trifecta Vibrator, $99.00
If you're looking for a toy that covers all the bases, you've found it in the Trifecta Vibrator by Evolved. This large vibrator is a triple-stimulator, targeting 3 different erogenous zones to help you reach a powerful climax. The main shaft is textured for stronger sensation and can be controlled individually. The rabbit ear clitoral stimulator and graduated-bead anal stimulator are controlled simultaneously. All three pieces have 10 powerful speeds and functions and are flexible so everything moves with your body for comfort and pleasure.
Dual Desires Strap On Harness, $38.00
Fuel your desires with the Dual Desires Strap-On Harness. Design for dual penetration, this harness has a unique design that allows the wearer to comfortably sport their penis through lower opening, while using a dildo in the upper O-ring, or use two harness-compatible dildos of your choice and the center connection strap for double the penetrative pleasure. The lower stitched opening has a diameter of 1.75 inches. When used with a penis, the stitched O-ring holds your shaft snug to help you feel harder, longer and avoids uncomfortable friction with the harness padding. The padded neoprene is ultra comfortable and this 4-way adjustable harness fits hips up to 60 inches.
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Further Readings:
Your Everything-To-Know Guide to Double Penetration: Cosmopolitan
The Psychology of Double Penetration: Medium
What is Triple Penetration?: Fetishpreneur
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LOVERS
Thank you for the information on double pentration. I always wanted to . I had two agreeable guys . Was up for it I had did the anal cleaning and wore the anal plug until we meet . Oh my God it was great my vagina & anal filled with nice sizes Cocks . I had many orgasms .
Informative guide on exploring intimacy with double penetration. Communication