Guest written by Rain Andersen (@rainsunae) a veteran sworker with nine years in adult entertainment and five years working for Lovers.

Love languages were first popularized in Gary Chapman’s 1992 book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. According to Chapman, there are five ways to express and experience love. Chapman theorized that if couples could identify and cater to these love languages, they could improve their communication and have more fulfilling love lives.

While it’s possible to speak all five love languages, most individuals speak a primary love language- meaning that they express and respond to specific expressions of love, usually related to how love was expressed in their family of origin. Knowing your partners love language can help you to recognize when a partner is showing love, even if it is in a language that you are unaccustomed to speaking.

As Valentine’s Day rears it’s candy-coated head, we are revisiting Chapman’s five love languages in an effort to find the ultimate Valentine gift. Locate your love language below to find the perfect V-Day bundle to impress your loved ones.


  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Physical Touch
  3. Receiving Gifts
  4. Quality Time
  5. Acts of Service

A person with this love language responds to authentic praise, encouragement, and appreciation. We’ve selected gifts that help facilitate meaningful conversations, inside or outside of the bedroom. Pair this gift with a thoughtful note or card that encourages and affirms your partner's desire for pleasure.

Sex Candy Hearts ($5.95) + Spank Me Candy Heart Plug ($24.00) + Sexology Deck ($24.00)

Things to Try on Valentine’s Day:

PHYSICAL TOUCH: Intimacy is a priority for those whose love language is physical touch. Looking for a fun tip? Try surprising your partner by seductively blindfolding them as they unwrap their Valentine’s gifts. Help them to hold the gift in their hands and guess what each item is. Don’t be afraid to show excitement! Body language is equally important to individuals who value physical touch.

Fuzu Vibrating Massage Gloves ($160.00) + Pivot Positioning Partner ($99.00) + After Dark Pheromone Massage Candle ($26.50)

Things to Try on Valentine’s Day:

  • Edging
  • Orgasm Torture
  • Body Mapping
  • Guided Exploration

RECEIVING GIFTS: It’s gifting season, and these folks love to be spoiled. Earn extra brownie points by staging your gift for your partner. If you are connecting long distance, then take the extra time to ensure your package is delivered by the holiday.

Le Wand Vibrating Necklace ($100.00) + The Pleasure Pair Kit ($319.00) + WhipSmart Lovebed Lounger ($359.00)

Things to Try on Valentine’s Day:

QUALITY TIME: These individuals love and appreciate uninterrupted and focused attention. Plan to dedicate some time with gifts that will keep you entertained and stimulated throughout the evening. If you find yourself working on Valentine’s Day, consider a gift that implies that time will be scheduled at a later date.

Mojo Relaxing Water-Based Anal Lube ($18.50) + b-Vibe Anal Training & Education Kit ($24.50) + Tantus Aftercare Cream ($22.50)

ACTS OF SERVICE: Make this holiday all about pampering your partner, because actions can speak louder than words. Avoid giving your partner a sex toy for solo use- gifts should be selected because they can be used with or on your partner.

Tantus Spanking Cream ($28.50) + Sportsheets Special Edition Bed Restraints ($109.00) + Brat Crop ($20.00)

Things to Try on Valentine’s Day:

Still looking for the perfect Valentine gift? We've curated the best Valentine's gifts in the industry. Shop all of them in our Valentine's Day Gift Guide for a limited time!

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Further Readings:

What are the 5 Love Languages: Very Well Mind
Men Reveal the Type of Sex They Want on V-Day: Elite Daily
How to Do Valentine's Day at Home This Year: VICE Magazine



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