Guest written by Rain Andersen (@wearenotfriends_) a veteran sworker with eight years in adult entertainment and three years working for Lovers.
Valentine’s Day is coming… are you? This last year has shown us that everyone deserves some extra love. We are here to help you shower your friends with platonic love, gift your work bestie something to say “thank you” in a whole new way, and gift the joys of sex toys to a loved one. Because nothing says “I Love You” quite like the joys of sex toys.
If you've been thinking about gifting a sex toy, you may find this step-by-step guide useful. I have purchased sex toys for numerous individuals during my time working with Lovers. Today I am sharing a few tricks on how you can find the perfect sexy Valentine’s Day or Galentine’s Day gift in just six simple steps!
STEP 1: DETERMINE WHO YOUR RECIPIENT WILL BE
Buying sex toys is a delicate art. It can be helpful to determine if the recipient of your gift is open to receiving a sex toy before investing in a new pleasure product. An investigative conversation can help to determine what sort of products they are interested in and what concerns they may have. My friends, family, and partners know that the sex toy industry is my passion, so it never comes as a surprise when I am gifting a pleasure object. Reference the check list below to determine if a sex toy is a viable gifting option for you. If you are still on the fence, don’t hesitate to communicate to your friend/lover/sibling/parent that you are interested in gifting them something of the adult variety.
- They expressed interest in using a vibrator
- They have shared a sexual concern with you, seeking feedback or suggestions
- They openly discuss their sexual experiences with you
- They have purchased a sex toy for you or with you
STEP 2: CONSIDER QUALITY AND PRICE POINT
You’ve decided to buy a sex toy! Vibrators, lubricants, and restraints make incredibly fun gifts for both the giver and the receiver. I personally like to buy products made from silicone. Disposable products or products made from less durable materials are great for individuals that are looking to dip their toes into a new shape or style of toy, but when I am gifting a sex toy I’m looking for products that will last long term. I want to pick out products that will allow my loved ones to explore new sensations without having to worry about an expiration date. Exploring your sexuality should be on your own timeline, be it five days or five months after receiving or purchasing a sex toy. By buying body-safe gifts, I am communicating to my loved ones that I want them to find pleasure in the safest and easiest way possible.
STEP 3: THINK ABOUT SHAPE AND DESIGN
Sex toys come in all sorts of shapes and textures. When it comes to picking out a sex toy, consider how the design of the product might impact the user’s experience. As a seasoned sex toy buyer, I understand that it can be difficult (AKA: FRUSTRATING) to flip through a 30-page product manual. Using a sex toy does not need to be complicated. If you are purchasing a toy for a first-time user, look to simple and intuitive button interfaces. It is common to see around three buttons on your vibrator. These buttons allow you to increase power, decrease power, or engage a pattern mode. Some toys are equipped with anywhere from 4-7 buttons. My advice - save these for experienced toy users.
I also like to look at texture and size of the toy. If you are able, hold the product in your hands. Is the product soft? Is it textured? How does it feel in your hand? Toys that sit in your palm or act as an extension of your fingertips can be more approachable for less experienced individuals. Finally, take a look at the ambiguity of the toy. Most people will find it alarming to receive a realistic looking sex toy. Unless this is something you’ve discussed with them, opt for toys that could pass for a facial massager, art object, or household device. We’ve included six of our favorite ambiguous toys below:
STEP 4: REMEMBER THE FEATURES AND FUNCTIONS
The next thing we will want to consider are the features and functions of your vibrator. I like to purchase water-proof products with a wide range of settings. This ensures that no matter what type of stimulation my loved one likes; they will be able to access it. A toy with an unusual shape should never be overlooked, as these products can translate to more versatile use. Perhaps you want to purchase them a dual action vibrator that could moonlight as an anal toy. A clitoral toy may double as a body massager. Keep your options open so that your loved one can get creative. This also creates an opportunity to hone in on any special features you might want to include. For example, I love to purchase app-enabled sex toys for my friends in long distance relationships. What features could that special someone benefit from?
STEP 5: EMBELLISH WITH KINKS AND ENHANCEMENTS
I’m a huge fan of bundling gifts. I love to watch my friends and lovers discover their sexuality with confidence and enthusiasm, so I try to include any products that could help take their experience to the next level. The Intimate Earth Intense Clitoral Stimulant is my ride-or-die product. I make sure that I always include a bottle of this with any gift I purchase because it was so life changing for me. If you have a product that changed your perspective on sex toys, this is the time to include it! Gifts are a great way to share your favorite products with a loved one. Adding in a few small items can create a storyline for the receiver that makes your gift even more special.
STEP 6: HOOK THEM UP WITH A LUBE AND TOY CLEANER
Don’t forget these essentials when purchasing a sex toy as a gift! Lubricant and toy cleaner can help to ensure better sexual experiences and improve the longevity of your sex toy. Set your friends and lovers up for success and get them the proper tools to service their toys. This will safeguard your loved ones from bacteria that accumulates on the surface of the toy, or any tearing that could occur.
We hope this guide gave you a little more confidence when it comes to gifting a sex toy. If you’re still feeling overwhelmed at the prospect of finding the perfect Valentine’s gift, then head to one of our 42 U.S. locations. Our store associates love to empower others with the gift of pleasure! Stop by today to speak with an in-store expert or visit our online store to shop solo.