Guest written by Rain Andersen (@wearenotfriends_) a veteran sworker with eight years in adult entertainment and three years working for Lovers.
We all know that Valentine’s Day can be a major source of stress. Our brains tend to generate unnecessary dialogue about how our gifts will be received. Will they like our gift? Does the gift express how much we care? Do they even like this color? As experts in the business of pleasure, we have a few ideas on how we can make this gift giving season more manageable.
The idea of love languages was popularized in Gary Chapman’s 1992 book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. According to Chapman, there are five ways to express and experience love. If you can identify your partners primarily love language, Chapman theorized that couples could improve their communication and have more fulfilling love lives.
We put together 10 Valentine’s Day bundles designed to cater to your love language. Find your love language or your partners love language below and match it to one of our suggested Valentine’s Day bundles for a gift that is certain to impress your loved ones!
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: Words of affirmation is all about communication. We’ve selected gifts that help facilitate meaningful conversations, inside or outside of the bedroom. Pair this gift with a thoughtful note or card that encourages and affirms your partner's desire for pleasure.
PHYSICAL TOUCH: Intimacy is a priority for those whose love language is physical touch. Looking for a fun tip? Try surprising your partner by seductively blindfolding them as they unwrap their Valentine’s gifts. Help them to hold the gift in their hands and guess what each item is. Don’t be afraid to show excitement! Body language is equally important to individuals who value physical touch.
RECEIVING GIFTS: It’s the season for gift giving, and your job is to spoil them! Earn extra brownie points by staging your gift for your partner. If you are connecting long distance, then take the extra time to ensure your package is delivered by the holiday!
Tango X ($89.00) + Dreamgirl Netflix & Chill Romper ($38.00) + Astrology of Love & Sex Book ($24.50)
QUALITY TIME: These individuals love and appreciate uninterrupted and focused attention. Plan to dedicate some time with gifts that will keep you entertained and stimulated throughout the evening. If you find yourself working on Valentine’s Day, consider a gift that implies that time will be scheduled at a later date.
ACTS OF SERVICE: I don’t want to hear that you love me. I want you to show up outside my house with burritos and a bottle of tequila. Actions. Make this holiday all about pampering your partner, because actions can speak louder than words. Avoid giving your partner a sex toy for solo use- gifts should be selected because they can be used with or on your partner.
Fingerlicious Finger Vibe ($44.00) + Weekend in Bed Tantric Massage Set ($34.50) + System of JO Warming Glide ($22.50)
Discover Your Love Language: Gary Chapman Promotional Site
The Five Love Languages Explained: Oprah Magazine
Everything You Need to Know About Love Languages: Mind Body Green