A BEGINNER'S GUIDE TO PEGGING

Despite it making its way into the mainstream world of millennial television (and into the bedrooms of many), pegging is an act that carries the weight of taboo. If you’re familiar with the world of the NYC based show "Broad City", you might have heard of pegging. More recently, it was prominently featured on the show "The Bold Type" - both shows aptly titled their episodes “To Peg Or Not To Peg.” Clearly, this is a question that arises for many! 

So, first things first, what is pegging? 

Pegging is when someone wears a strap-on to penetrate the anus of another person.

What are the accessories used in pegging?

  • Strap-On / Harness: Harnesses can be made out of a variety of materials and are the mechanisms that the dildo fits into. There are two main types: the O-ring and the Vac-U-Lock system. O-ring harnesses are the most popular and versatile because they are compatible with a larger variety of sizes and types of dildos.  

Vibrating Harness

Sportsheets Vibrating Harness

  • Harness Compatible Dildos: There are a variety of options for dildos! For harness compatibility, look for a flared base. Remember, bigger is *not* always better here. Make sure to communicate what is comfortable for you AND your partner prior to purchase.

Fun Factory Limba

Fun Factory Limba

  • Wearable Dildos (sometimes referred to as 'strapless strap-ons'): These types of dildos can be 'worn' with or without a harness depending on if the wearer wants to experience penetration while pegging. 

Fun Factory Share Vibe

Fun Factory Sharevibe

Regardless of gender or sexuality, anyone can experience the pleasure of pegging. If done correctly, it can be not only sexy, but empowering. While mixing things up in this manner may raise a few questions, we’ve laid out a few steps to help ease your nerves!

  1. Communication! Talking it out with your partner is the first and most important step. Get a feel for what you both are looking (or not looking) for from embarking on this sexual adventure. Don’t force anything that neither of you is comfortable with. Keep in mind that booty play doesn't have to be pegging- if you're interested in this sensation, but not ready to peg, check out butt plugs

  2. Once you’re both ready, shop for a strap-on / harness and dildo (they are sometimes sold together!) that feels comfortable. The partner wearing the harness should consider what materials feel good and fit them. The receiving partner should communicate what they’re comfortable feeling pegged with. Think about the size, shape, and form of what you desire. 

  3. LUBE. Lots of lube. A note: we prefer silicone-based lubricant because it is long lasting however, it damages silicone-based dildos. In which case, we recommend a water-based! (We also suggest using a toy cleaner to keep things extra safe!)

  4. Foreplay! Your bodies need ample time to get aroused, ready, and present in the moment. This is a critical part to enhance pleasure and prevent pain - the more foreplay, the better.

  5. Once you’re in the act: make sure there is ample communication throughout! Finding a comfortable pace, depth, and rhythm will only enhance your experience. If anal stimulation is new to you, try some anal training exercises first. The goal is to train your anus to relax during receiving so that the experience is enjoyable. And once again, be sure to have lots of lube handy, seriously!

A note: Doggy style is a classic position that’s pleasurable to engage in but don’t be afraid to try new ones too! Laying on your stomach is a great beginner pose. Move around and enjoy the sensations of your newfound sexual flavor.


Our Top Three Favorite Pegging Toys

LOVERS DEEP ECSTASY ROTATOR: harness compatible dildo that rotates 

LEISURE SILICONE DILDOa good, medium sized harness compatible dildo

BEGINNER FRIENDLY STRAP ON SET: includes a harness & dildo (for under $50)



Further Reading

What is Pegging?: Cosmopolitan

5 Myths About Pegging: Bustle

What is Pegging and How Do You Actually Make it Feel Good?: Women's Health