Guest written by Rain Andersen (@wearenotfriends_) a veteran sworker with eight years in adult entertainment and three years working for Lovers.
The days of live music, swingers’ clubs, and craft cocktails are over. For those of us who are partnered during the quarantine, the pressure to keep things exciting can be intimidating. In this blog, we are sharing four quarantine-friendly ways to spice things up on date night. Spread out each activity across multiple date nights or stack them for a pleasure-filled evening.
NETFLIX & CHILL: Pop culture and sex go hand-in-hand in this steamy after-hours activity. Take inspiration from a classic dinner and movie date. Spend the evening binge watching some of these incredible films and television series about sexuality. Bonus points for a thoughtful discussion following the credits.
5 Films & TV Shows About Sexuality
BONDiNG (2019) – This dark, American comedy just released its second season on Netflix. The series follows Tiff Chester (Zoe Levin), a psychology student by day and a dominatrix by night. Looking to navigate her double life, Tiff enlists the help of her gay best friend (Brendan Scannell) to be her assistant in this fresh and modern comedy.
Cam (2018) – A webcam model obsessed with ranking number one has her broadcast taken over by a mysterious woman. Known for its incredible set design and soundtrack, this psychological thriller is sure to keep you on the edge of your seat.
Sex Education (2020) – Sex Education is a British dramady starring Asa Butterfield as insecure teenager, Otis. After helping a school bully with a sexual performance problem, Otis and his friend Maeve (Emma Mackey) partner up to open a sex advice business, inspired by Otis’ mother (Gillian Anderson), a professional sex therapist. This heartwarming series is sure to inspire nostalgia.
Big Mouth (2020) – From the minds of Nick Kroll (The League) and Andrew Goldberg (Family Guy). Big Mouth is an animated television series that follows teenagers on their journey through puberty. This hilarious, sex positive series covers everything from depression and gender identity to masturbation and social stigmas, with episode titles like “I am Gay,” and “The Planned Parenthood.”
Moonlight (2016) – Moonlight is a coming-of-age film written and directed by Barry Jenkins. This Oscar nominated film follows Chiron, a young black man growing up in Miami, Florida. This film is an incredible statement on black bodies and queer identity, based off the Tarell Alvin McCraney play, In Moonlight Black Boys Look Blue.
5 Educational Films & Documentaries About Sex
ROCCO (2016) – This French documentary focuses on Rocco Siffredi, Italy’s Playboy. His mother wanted him to become a priest, but instead he became a living legend. Follow Rocco during his final year in front of the camera as Italy’s most coveted male porn actor.
Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution (2017) – Learn about college hook up culture in this eye-opening documentary. Liberated tracks a group of college students during their Spring Break, documenting their attitudes and behaviors regarding sex in the modern world.
Hot Girls Wanted: Turned On (2017) – In the second installment of Rashida Jones’ Hot Girls Wanted, we look at the personal stories of sex workers as they relate to technology, romantic relationships, and the intersection of sex.
Sex Explained (2020) – Sex Explained is a limited documentary series produced by Vox. Each episode of this series explores different topics about sexuality using history, trends, and science to unravel the mystery of sex. Narrated by Janelle Monae.
Disclosure (2020) – Disclosure takes a look at Hollywood’s representation of transgender people and its impact on American Culture. Directed by Sam Feder, this documentary explores the complete history of transgender representation dating back to the silent era.
DIG DEEPER: The desire for thought provoking conversations is evident in the success of games like Mind, Body, Soul and We're Not Really Strangers. Grab a drink and cozy up with your partner for a round of rapid-fire questions that are guaranteed to bring the two of you closer! Here are 10 questions to get you started:
What past romantic gesture from your partner felt most meaningful to you and why?
What was your biggest heartbreak and what did it teach you?
Name your love languages from most impactful to least impactful- explain your choices.
What is something you can tell you partner that you have not been able to share yet?
What can your partner do to emotionally support you the next time you are having a bad day?
Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of 5 characteristics.
Is there something you’ve dreamed about doing? What’s stopping you?
What in your life do you feel most grateful for?
What roles do love and affection play in your life?
What happened the last time you had a hard time forgiving someone and what helped you move forward?
MIX IT UP IN BED: What better way to experience the quarantine then to cross a few items off your fucket list? A yes-no-maybe list can help you and your partner discover new ways to pleasure yourselves. They are a great way to start manifesting time and space for pleasure and can help you to better understand your partners preferences and kinks. Check lists are satisfying, printable, and tons of fun to fill out with your significant other! Start with this simple yes-no-maybe list to initiate a discussion on pleasure:
THROW A DANCE PARTY: Movement and touch are important components of how we connect with others. Dance is one form of connection that allows us to express touch in both sexual and non-sexual ways. If you’re feeling cooped up in the house, dancing is a great way to connect with your loved ones and reintroduce touch. Get your blood pumping with this erotic Spotify playlist by Lovers Stores:
