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The practices of meditation, mindfulness, and gratitude have become increasingly mainstream in the last few years and the benefits practitioners and gurus claim to see would make anyone living in today’s chaotic world stop and take notice. Who doesn’t want to sleep better, be happier, feel calmer, and be more loving? All this positive feedback got us thinking, why not apply these same practices to creating a more holistic experience when orgasming?
Mindfulness is “a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations.”
Meditation is “a practice in which an individual uses a technique– such as mindfulness, or focusing the mind on a particular object, thought, or activity– to train attention and awareness, and achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm and stable state.”
Gratitude is “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.”
Utilizing one or more of these techniques in the post-orgasm glow of sex could give you the chance to get closer to yourself, your body, and your pleasure. Knowledge is power and the more we know ourselves and what makes us feel good, the more opportunities we have to create lives that center those things.
You can use mindfulness to stay present during sex and to bring awareness to all the sensations you experience during orgasm. Following your orgasm, consider a short meditation or moment of reflection to savor the experience and express gratitude for it. We came up with five ways to be present with and express gratitude for your body and your orgasm below.
6 Ways to Thank Your Body & Your Orgasm
Write a Letter to Your O
Detailing all thoughts, feelings, sensations you experienced during your O. Rejoice in any positive feelings, of course, but if any negative or confusing feelings also came up, give those feelings permission to exist and don’t try to push them away.
Sex can burn some serious calories! Thank your body and your O for all the good they do by eating something nourishing and delicious as a form of aftercare.
Do Something Sensual
Consider a long shower where you stay present as you wash your body and express gratitude for it or a massage with using a delicious smelling massage oil candle.
Keep the Movement Going
Those wonderful feelings coursing through you post-O can be a great kickstart to doing more physical movement if you want to. Pick something that you enjoy and that feels good– that can be anything from going for a walk to doing some yoga or even taking a swim.
Tell Someone About It
Ask your partner or best friend if you can share with them how you experienced your O. Ask them if they want to share in return. Express some gratitude towards them for giving you this space to be vulnerable.
Take a Nap
Rest is restorative. This act of self-care is a perfect way to thank your body for all it does and all you hope it will continue to do for you.
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Practicing Gratitude Leads to Better Sex: Complete Human
How Showing Gratitude Improves Sex: Get Maude
Mindful Sex is Mind Blowing Sex: Psychology Today