Guest written by Missy Modell, a musical parody artist and activist focused on the intersection of social justice and pop culture. Missy is the founder of YES MAM Creative, a consultancy for mission-based brands. You can find Missy on Instagram at @missymodell.
Let’s talk about period sex! If the topic alone makes you squeamish, let’s just blame it on societal stigma. Is having sex on your period bad? Does sex delay your period? Many of the answers to these questions are not common knowledge.
Allow us to break it down for you quickly. Can you have sex on your period? YES. In fact, we highly recommend it! Aside from it being a little messier than a typical romp, having sex on your period is not only extremely fun, but it has many benefits. In fact, some experience higher levels of arousal around their menstrual cycle and find that this can deepen their connection with a partner(s).
- 4 Benefits of Having Period Sex
- 3 Common Misconceptions About Period Sex
- 4 Tips for Having Better Sex During Your Period
Cramping during your period occurs when your uterus contracts to shed its lining. Having orgasms can be a more pleasurable way to relieve cramps because orgasms cause the uterine muscles to contract and release. The sensations are similar, but orgasms also release endorphins which can help you feel better overall, aka less headaches too! Did we mention that it’s way more fun than popping a Midol?
Having these frequent muscle contractions helps to clear out your uterus. This could lead to a shorter period because of the repeated motions during sex.
Having sex during their period can be even more pleasurable than at other times of your cycle. This is because of the changes in your libido that occur throughout your menstrual cycle as a result of hormonal fluctuations.
"Period sex is gross!"
False. There is a common misconception that having sex on your period is gross, unhealthy, or unclean. But let’s be real: all sex involves a variety of different types of fluids and excretions, whether it’s sweat, lubrication, or ejaculate! Menstrual blood is simply another way our body releases things in order to healthily function. Period sex isn’t as taboo as it seems. When being intimate, menstrual blood is not a reason to avoid intercourse, unless it’s your personal preference. Sometimes being messy can be hot! Do what makes you feel comfortable, embrace your body, and enjoy.
"You can get pregnant if you have sex during your period."
True. Although the odds of conceiving are lower during your period, it is still possible.
“Getting pregnant depends on when ovulation occurs in your cycle. The day of ovulation differs from person to person. In theory, you are more likely to get pregnant from having sex during your period if you ovulate early in your cycle or if your period lasts much longer than the average five days.” - Flo
In any intimate situation it’s always good to err on the side of safety! Using protection helps both you and your partner(s) stay safe and healthy, allowing you to enjoy each other and be more present.
"You bleed more when you have sex on your period."
True. It’s thought that period sex can make you bleed more. Similar to cramp relief, the pattern of muscle contractions helps your uterus shed, which can speed up the process in a sense, leading to more or faster bleeding.
- If you’re concerned about things getting messy, a towel or absorbent sex blanket does the trick!
- Try out different intimate positions such as laying on your back, so gravity is less of a factor
- Enjoy exploring shower sex- the water will naturally rinse away any mess.
- Listen to your body!
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