STRAPPED IN: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO STRAP-ON SEX

Guest written by Rain Andersen (@wearenotfriends_) a veteran sworker with nine years in adult entertainment and five years working for Lovers.

Have you ever wanted to have strap-on sex? The Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex will explain how you can get started on your journey. 

QUICK LINKS:

  1. What is a Strap-On?
  2. What Type of People Have Strap-On Sex?
  3. How to Pick the Perfect Strap-On
  4. How to Wear a Strap-On: 5 Tips for Seamless Thrusts

What is a Strap-On?

A strap-on refers to a sex toy (or a combination of sex toys) that is worn on the hips, and used to penetrate a partner. Strap-on’s come in a variety of shapes and materials, designed to accommodate different body parts and/or add sensation to sex.

What Type of People Have Strap-On Sex?

People of all genders enjoy strap-on sex.

While many people associate lesbians with strap-on sex, they only make up a small demographic of the strap-on userbase. In fact, the first silicone dildo (arguably one of the most important components of the strap-on), was created to support disabled men who could no longer become erect. Take a look at some of the ways that people like to use strap-on’s for sex, below:

  • People With Erectile Dysfunction:
    May enjoy wearing a strap-on to facilitate penetration or to elongate play.
  • Cis-Men:
    May enjoy being penetrated by a strap-on to stimulate their prostate.
  • Cis-Women:
    May enjoy being penetrated by a strap-on anally, while receiving vaginal penetration.
  • Transgender People:
    May enjoy the experience of gender euphoria that wearing or using a strap-on can provide.
  • Lesbian Women:
    May enjoy using a strap-on to penetrate their partner with a vulva.
  • Swingers:
    May enjoy using a strap-on in group settings to allow for double or triple penetration scenes.

How to Pick the Perfect Strap-On

You have lots of options when it comes to picking out the perfect strap-on! The first step to finding your dream strap-on is to determine if you want a traditional, harness-free, underwear-style, or hollow strap-on. We break down these three options for you below:

TYPES OF STRAP-ON HARNESSES


Strap-On-Me Medium Vibrating Strap-On
, $139

  • Traditional Strap-On’s
    A traditional strap-on refers to a (often personalized) combination of sex toys: a strap-on harness + a dildo. Many couples opt for traditional strap-on set’s because it allows them to customize and swap out sex toys based on their partner or preference. These harnesses can be stepped-into, and fitted to the body using adjustable stabilizing straps.
  • PROS: Customizable, Easy to Share
    CONS: Time & Money to Invest in Your Collection

  • Harness-Free Strap-On’s (Strapless Strap-On’s)
    A harness-free strap-on is a sex toy with two insertable ends, designed to provide pleasure to the person being penetrated and the person providing the penetration. This style of strap-on is usually curved on one end, which allows the toy to lock into place, and put additional pressure against the G-spot. Harness-free strap-on’s come in a variety of different styles that can vibrate, thrust, suck, and pulse!
  • PROS: Pleasure for Two
    CONS: Pelvic Floor Strength Required

  • Underwear-Style Strap-On’s
    An underwear-style strap-on is a type of harness that is used for strap-on sex. This style of harness sits flat against the skin, and resembles a cute pair of underwear! These machine-washable, and skin-friendly materials are gaining popularity among people of all genders.
  • PROS: Stylish & Sexy, Machine Washable
    CONS: Can Be More Difficult to Size

  • Hollow Strap-On’s
    A hollow strap-on is style of dildo with a hollow core, designed to act as a firm sheath over the penis. Hollow strap-on's are a excellent choice for anyone looking to add firmness, girth, or length to their penis.
  • PROS: Longer Sexual Encounters
    CONS: Can Be Quite Large in Order to Fit Over the Typical Penis

You may want to try different styles of harnesses, to see which options feel most comfortable to you and your partner. Some harnesses will include a built-in pocket, designed to hold your favorite bullet vibrator. Others harnesses can be combined with a magnetic panty vibe to control the direction of stimulation.

TYPES OF DILDOS


Fun Factory Limba M Flex Dildo
, $70

The size, texture, and material of your dildo can alter your strap-on experience. Depending on your goals, you may want to look at different styles of dildos to accomplish different objectives. Take a look at the list below and consult your partner to see what style of dildo sounds most arousing to them:

*Note that a dildo must have a base in order for it to fit inside a strap-on harness.

  • Curved Dildos
    Ideal for G-Spot and prostate stimulation.
  • Thick Dildos
    Ideal for A-spot stimulation.
  • Poseable Dildos
    Ideal for creating a variety of different shapes.
  • Thrusting Dildos
    Ideal for creating additional momentum.
  • Vibrating + Textured Dildos
    Ideal for adding additional sensation to penetration.

How to Wear a Strap-On: 5 Tips for Seamless Thrusts

Let’s face it: strap-on sex has a learning curve.

Even if you have a penis, it can be difficult to control these sex toys. This is because strap-on’s are an extension of our natural body. We can’t feel sensation in them and we can’t control their movements. Here are five tips for helping you to gain control over your strap-on:

  • Use Plenty of Lubricant
    When people use strap-on sex toys, it can be difficult to decipher how a toy feels on the receiving end. The angle and glide of your strap-on dildo can feel more seamless to the receiver when it is paired with a good quality lubricant.
  • Wear Your Harness & Dildo Around the House
    Wearing a strap-on dildo and harness around your home can help you to become more accustomed to the weight and hang of your sex toy. As you become more comfortable with this sensation, it can become easier to control the direction and speed of your sex toy during penetration.
  • Have the Receiving Partner Sit or Back Up onto the Strap-On
    When a partner lowers themselves onto a dildo, or backs their body up against it, it allows them to control the speed and depth in which they are penetrated.
  • Use Your Hands to Control the Angle of Penetration:
    No one said that you had to do this hands-free! Use your hands to control the angle of your dildo as you insert it. This will help to stabilize the sex toy and control the speed in which it is inserted.
  • Experiment with Non-Penetrative Stimulation
    Though strap-on’s are intended for penetrative sex, they can be used in non-penetrative ways, as well. Anyone new to strap-on sex can experiment with non-penetrative forms of stimulation- such as rubbing a dildo between their partners legs or grazing their strap-on against their partner’s stomach.
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Further Readings:
Experimenting Your Way to More Pleasure: Dipsea Stories
The Science of Sexual Arousal: American Psychological Association
The Definitive Guide to Micro Expressions: Science of People

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