While the idea of giving a blowjob seems pretty straight forward, it’s not outlandish to work yourself up about it. Whether you’re a first timer looking for tips or you’ve given a few BJ’s in your time but are hunting for ways to ensure both you and your partner have an amazing experience, Lovers is here to help!

PRO TIP: COMMUNICATION & CONSENT

It’s SO important to remember that no one is a mind reader and being open and honest with ourselves and our partners is crucial to healthy and enjoyable sex. Check in often with your partner about what you’re both comfortable with, what you like and dislike, and how you’re both feeling before, during, and after. 

BJ TIP 1: GET COMFORTABLE

Find a position that both you and your partner feel you can hold for a while. No one wants to have to stop the party because of an aching neck or numb feet. A comfortable position will also allow you to be more present and enthusiastic!

BJ TIP 2: START SOFT AND SLOW

Whether their penis is flaccid or already hard, a soft touch and slow rhythm leaves room for you to amp things up as you go and avoids over-stimulating your partner. You can even start with “foreplay” and explore the rest of their body with touches and kisses before working your way to the actual penis play.

BJ TIP 3: TONGUE AND CHEEKS

To add layers to the stimulation, try rolling your tongue around the penis (this creates additional lubrication, which is always a win), and hollow your cheeks occasionally to create suction. Check in with your partner on the intensity they prefer.

PRO TIP: No teeth. Ever. Just don’t.

BJ TIP 4: TO DEEP THROAT OR NOT TO DEEP THROAT

Deep throating is when you put as much of your partner’s penis into your mouth as you can before pulling it back out (slowly and sensually of course). This isn’t a requirement for a really great blowjob, but if you want to try it, the important thing is to relax your throat so your gag reflex doesn’t kick in. You can also try BJ aids like the Deeply Love You Throat Spray.

BJ TIP 5: USE YOUR HANDS

You can also use your hands to give your mouth a little break. You can create a similar sensation to deep-throating by gripping the base of his shaft and moving your hand and mouth in rhythmic motion or using an open ended stroker toy like Zolo Pocket Girlfriend.

BJ TIP 6: IT’S NOT JUST ABOUT THE PENIS

Stimulate the areas around the penis as you go down – the scrotum, perineum, and anus are all highly sensitive. Go for the balls! See if your partner enjoys having their testicles stimulated. It can be incredibly pleasurable. Use your tongue, mouth, and hands to see what feels good. If you both agree to a little anal penetration, start slow, one finger at a time and don’t forget a good lube. We like Pjur Back Door.

BJ TIP 7: EYE CONTACT & ENTHUSIASM

Looking up at your partner while going down on them is a very sexy move you can incorporate. Noises of enjoyment and body language that communicate to your partner that you find pleasure in pleasuring them are also great!

BJ TIP 8: THE MONEY SHOT

Think about where you want your partner to cum before it gets to the critical moment. Sometimes oral is a precursor to other kinds of sex so if they are getting close, slow things down and tell them to wait for it. If you are getting a good groove and you can tell your partner is about to cum, get ready to use your hands if you’d like them to cum somewhere other than your mouth. 

BJ TIP 9: AFTERCARE

Talk to your partner about ways you can both feel appreciated and extra close after orgasm. Some ways to connect include helping each other clean up, complimenting one another on parts of the experience you particularly enjoyed and cuddling. Blowjobs should be fun for both parties so don’t hesitate when it comes to adding any of these tips and tricks so you both get the most out of your time below the waist!

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